கேட்டதை கொடுப்பவனே Krishna

தப்பு தான். தெரியாம கேட்டுட்டேன். நான் ஒண்ணும் அடுத்தாத்து அம்புஜத்த பாத்து

என் கணவர் கிட்ட ஒண்ணும் கேக்கலை. எல்லாம் அந்த கிருஷ்ணர் கிட்ட தான் . என்ன கேட்டேனா

ஒரு அனுபவம் கேட்டேன். எல்லாரும் "அதை" பத்தி சொல்லறப்போ "ச்சே ,

நமக்கு அந்த அனுபவம் இல்லையே"னு ரொம்ப feel பண்ணேன்.

அதுவும் Madras போனா எல்லாரும் ஒரு தடவையாவது "அதை" பத்தி பேசாம இருக்கமாட்டா.

என்னடா இது, நமக்கு அந்த அனுபவம் இல்லாமலே போயிடுமோனு ஒரே tension. அதனால நேர்

முறையீடு கடவுள் கிட்ட. ஒரு தடவையாவது அந்த அனுபவத்தை தரக் கூடாதான்னு சும்மா

ஒரு பேச்சுக்கு கேட்டேன்.

கிருஷ்ணர்

பாத்தார் "இதுக்கு தானே ஆசை பட்ட Suja" இந்தா அப்படின்னு நல்லா பலமாவே குடுத்துட்டார். என்னது??Earthquake தான்.

. என்னவோ "5.8", "5.9" ங்கறாங்க. நமக்கு என்ன தெரியும். எதோ நான் பாட்டுக்கு எப்பவும் போல

kitchenல என் dreamlandல இருந்தேன். தடால்னு wallல எதோ விழுந்தா மாதிரி இருந்த்துது. "டேய், வீட்டுக்குள்ள Ball விளையாடதேனு

எத்தனை……" அப்படினு என் பையனை திட்டிண்டு இருக்கும்போது என்னை சுத்தி பெரிய சத்தம். கோவம் சுர்னு தலைக்கு

ஏறிடுத்து. " மாடில இருக்கறவன் சமத்தியா இப்ப ஏங்கிட்ட திட்டு…" அப்படின்னு நினைச்சு முடிக்கறதுக்குள்ள அடுப்பு மேல இருந்தா

பாத்திரம்லாம் ஒரு ஆட்டம் ஆடித்து. அப்ப தான் தெரிஞ்சுது,அடடா.. இது Earthquake அப்படின்னு realize பண்றதுக்குள்ள

எல்லாம் ஆடி அடங்கிடுத்து. ரொம்ப பிரமாதமான quake. அக்கம் பக்கம் மக்கள் எல்லாம் வீட்டை விட்டு வெளில வந்துட்டாங்க. நாங்க

வீடுக்குள்ளேந்து வெளில இருக்கறவங்களை பாத்து கலாட்டா பண்ணிண்டு இருந்தோம். ஆனா, இந்த earthquake அனுபவம்

என் வாழ்நாளுக்கு போரும். இதான் earthquake னு தெரிஞ்சுபோச்சு. இனிமே வந்தா வீட்டை விட்டு எல்லாரையும் கூட்டிண்டு , எல்லாத்தையும் எடுத்துண்டு ஒடணும். ரொம்ப கஷ்டம். அதனால, தெய்வமே!! எதோ சின்ன பொண்ணு தெரியாம கேட்டுட்டேன், நீயாவது யோசிச்சு பண்ணகூடாதோ?lesson learnt. இனிமே அடுத்தாத்து அம்புஜம் என்ன வச்சுண்டு இருக்காளோ அது மட்டும் தான் என் wish listல இருக்கும்.

நாளும் கிழமையும் போட்டுக்க ஒரு நகை நட்டுண்டா நேக்கு

எட்டு கல்லு பேசரி போட்டா எடுப்பா இருக்கும் மூக்கு !!!!!!!

Waxing and Waning:Behind the scene (PG-18)

No, I'm not going to write about the Moon. I'm a girl of limited brain edition and I don't know anything about brainy stuff. Behind the scene is all about women's waxing and waning. I was reading a book about planets(ages 4 & up) for my daughter when it struck me that like the Moon,even women undergoes this waxing and waning every 30 days. So here I'm writing(though reluctant) about a feminine subject for men to understand women better. PG-18 is for girls above 18 and there is no age limit for men because,ahem…. ahem... at any given age men would never (try to)understand about women. Husbands, for once, read what is happening to "your woman" instead of reading what is happening to the world because of some women. Though I've said "husbands"many times here, this post is applicable to mother's sons, sister's brother's, aunt's uncles blogger's husband………...

Day1-Day 4:

We will be in the downy dumps with pain and top of that kids and husband. We yearn for a soothing word or two, a nice massage and quiet house.

நிலா தேய்கிறது, உயிர் போகிறது, யாரும் அறியவில்லையே!!!!

Day 5- Day 12

All of a sudden the depression cloud will float away. We feel refreshed and rejuvenated. The same kids and the same husband will make us jump for joy. Husbands, this is the best time of the month to talk about anything to your wife like, why she never cooks like your mom, how you miss your sister, how you don't want(her) to buy that jewelry, how

you don't want her to go on a shopping spree etc., She may not agree though, but she will not pick a fight with you because , she(we) will be in high spirits.

நிலா காயும் நேரம் சரணம், உலா போக நீயும் வரணும்

பார்வையில் புது புது கவிதைகள் மலர்ந்திடும்

காண்

பவை யாவுமே தேன்!!!!!!!!

Day 13 - Day 15

We feel great about ourselves now. Mind and body will work together. We feel like we can accomplish any difficult task like listening to our better half, getting along with in-laws, cooking a big feast, watching a weeping movie without weeping etc., because our en

ergy level will be at time peak now, before it drop……..s.

அந்த நிலாவை தான் நான் கையில புடிப்பேன்

என் ராசவுக்காக!!!!!!!!

Day 16 - Day 27

Here comes the roller coaster days. One minute we will be happy, the very next minute we will be angry and the minute after that we will cry for no reason. We bark at everyone. Husbands, a word of caution: you will be the target for your wife's anger. Also whatever you say during this time irritates her. For instance , if you compliment her looks she will scream at you like anything.

("ஆமா. இத்தனை நான் அழகா இருக்கறது தெரியலை, இப்ப தான் தெரிஞ்சுதா.வந்துட்டாங்க சொல்லறதுக்கு") .

After hearing this, if you try to mind your business without opening your mouth, you will hear the next dose of screaming(நான் இங்க ஒருத்தி பேசிண்டு இருக்கேன், அவர் எதாவது வாய திறந்து பேசறாரா பாரு").

On the other hand, if you open your mouth to say something, even then the screaming will continue(நீங்க எதுவும் பேச வேண்டாம், தயவு செஞ்சு இடத்தை காலி பண்ணுங்க").

We never really want to say all these hurting words. During this mid-month crisis, words like these come out of our mouth without our permission. Seriously our behaviour during these days, is not in our hands. Instead of relying on medicines and meditation, it would be better if men at home understands what women are undergoing. And you know "this too shall pass" unless your wife is a Tamil (mega) serial actress that has mid-month crisis 365/year. Until that time keep wondering,

நிலவுக்கு என் மேல் என்னடி கோவம் நெருப்பாய் எறிகிறது

இந்த மலருக்கு என் மேல் என்னடி கோவம் முள்ளாய் மாறியது!!!!!

Day 28- Day 30

Not again………..

இது ஒரு தொடர்கதை , சில தினம் விடுகதை

நிலவு தூங்கும் நேரம்!!!

Finally, I would be happy if this post of mine had changed a husband's perception of his wife from

கொஞ்சம் நிலவு கொஞ்சம் நெருப்பு,

ஒன்றாக சேர்ந்தால் எந்தன் தங்கம்!!!!! (my wife is little of moon and little of fire put together)

to,

ஒரு பெண்ணை பார்த்து நிலவை பார்த்தேன்,நிலவில் குளிர் இல்லை

அவள் கண்ணை பார்த்து மலரை பார்த்தேன், மலரில் ஒளி இல்லை

அவள் இல்லமால் நான் இல்லை, நான் இல்லாமல் அவள் இல்லை!!!

(Neither the Moon is as cool as "my girl",nor the flower is as bright as her. I cannot live without her and vice versa)

What can we do without…..

Women. One of God's wonderful creation is "Woman". I have a strong belief that if all the Navagrahas had been women, our life would've been more colorful.

Tamil literature classifies(based on Sanskrit) women in 4 stages based on their ages.

1)From birth till puberty

Babies are babies whether boy or girl. But there is an Irish saying: "A son is son till he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life". There is nothing more I've to say because the Irish saying covers it all.

2): From puberty till 30th year

Have you ever seen any writer(or anybody for that matter) describing about a guy?Even if they have, it would be all about six packs, height, weight. Common, are we in any doctor's office? Colloquially girls are termed as "colors" and "figures". Without "colors" and "figures", the world would be a dry land.

3)From 31st year till 55th year

Marriage brings so many changes in a (Indian)woman's life. First she has to bid adieu to her loving parents. Next, like a newborn baby she has to enter into a house filled with unfamiliar faces. Very importantly she should learn to accept them as her family members. Above all, she carries a life within herself. On the other hand, marriage is just an incident(in some cases accident) for men.

4)After 55 years

An Italian proverb says "if nothing is going well, call your grandmother". Also we all know that there is only "Patti Vaidhiyam"(Grandma's medicine) and no grandpa's.

So people, don't you agree that women are always one step ahead of men?

Before I conclude, I have few words to say.

"A daughter may someday find a Prince Charming, but her dad will always be her king". And my father is definitely my king. On this Father's day, I Thank God for having given a wonderful, one of a kind father to us daughters. Appa, you are our priced possession. And for each and every daughter I believe.

Have you ever seen a girl approving/admiring/praising another girl's beauty?It rarely happens. And a girl doesn't care much about this disapproval because she is the color and figure in somebody's eyes. If only that somebody won't care about her, she will feel a lot. Common people, if there is no chemistry, how biology will evolve?A very Happy Father's Day to all responsible fathers that colored and figured in their youth.

Marriage brings a special person into a woman's life. "HUSBAND". It is his love that soothes the bid adieu pain. It is his affection that makes us bind with his family members. A line from a tamil movie(bombay) song says that

புருஷன் சுற்றுவது நின்று விட்டால்

எந்நாளும் பெண் வாழ்வில் ஏற்றங்கள் இல்லை.

which is really true. A good husband makes a good father. My dear husband, I wish you a very Happy Father's day on behalf of our kids.

There wouldn't be any"Patti Vaidhyam", if grandpas had poked their nose into grandma's matters. Happy Father's day to all the grandfathers that supported and encouraged their wives right from 20 till……….

Finally, Happy Fathers day to all the gentlemen that are behind the ladies. What can we do without you?

What I (don't)want on "MOTHER'S DAY"?

No flowers

It is not that I don't like flowers, seriously what will I do with a flower bouquet?I have to take care of the flowers, put it in a vase, feed some flower food etc……It's another job which I don't want to commit.

No breakfast in bed

Breakfast comes with coffee. Other than my dad's, I don't want to drink any man made coffee at home. Also my husband and kids haven't yet learned the art of working quietly. My Sunday Morning sleep is more important than breakfast in bed.

No kids, no husband

I really want a break from all sorts of questions that a kid can ask a mom and a husband can ask a wife. I don't want to go out because for the very reason that I don't want to take the responsibility as soon as I come back. Also if I stay at home, you know that I won't make any mess but if it is other way round…..Therefore I would happily let my husband have a day out with my kids. I even let them hang out until after their dinner. This also paves the way for my next wish.

No cooking, (un)loading dishwasher

I will easily survive on oatmeal, bread and fruits. Although I may wish to eat rice, I will steer clear from rice because cooking rice involves dishes and I don't want to wash even a single dish on that day.

No calling friends over

Although I wish to develop my social network, I don't want my friends to come over because I have to offer/make something to eat. And you are correct , that involves dishes which I don't want to wash. But I do want a friend to hang out, I do want to laugh whole heartedly after sharing a r-rated joke and I do want to talk about walk about things that doesn't make any sense. But I don't want to talk about twinkle twinkle little star, I don't want to talk about cooking, I don't want to talk about my children's grades/homework and I don't want to talk about any Tom, Dick or Harry.

Yes Movie(s)

I will watch a movie that I have already watched before to be on the safer side. Only movie that I want to watch when my husband is not there is "Kuselan". He didn't let me cry during the climax scene of that movie. Since he was teasing me, I controlled my tears. Now I will watch that scene and will cry my heart out.

Yes Book(s)

Currently I'm reading all time hit "Ponniyin Selvan". I will take the book, go out, find a nice spot with trees, shades, bushes, butterflies , bees, birds and flowers. Since Mother's day comes in spring, it is a cinch to find a spot like that. I will immerse myself in that book and would like to get lost in Srilanka along with the characters. After reading the book, I will enjoy my surroundings which closely resembles the narration of that Srilankan Island.

Having done all the things that I wanted, at the end of the day, the new rejuvenated me,will wait for my husband who transformed me into mother and my kids who gave me the motherhood. I will welcome my weary kids and my worn out husband with bouquet of smile. I will be all ready to bring my son his breakfast in bed the next day. I will be so happy to sing again Twinkle Twinkle little star with my daughter. I will share a r-rated joke with my husband and laugh merrily. I will go to bed thinking "why can't there be two mother's day in a year?"

My Dear Indian Denizens/Citizens,

Recently I watched the movie Outsourced and was so disturbed by the portrayal of the lead (Indian)female character. I really could not digest the fact that an Indian woman would go to an extent of having …. and feels nothing about that and keeps her cool. At the same I also could not accept an American eating from a broken, filthy plate. I really don't care about whether he eats from a filthy plate or not. I'm more worried about that portrayal of that Indian woman. Is this really what we got from outsourcing?

India is becoming westernized for sure with malls, western eateries, western dresses etc,. I'm not criticizing all these. I just feel so sad that we forgot to take the best things from overseas. For instance, when we board our flight in foreign countries, we stand in the line and abide by their rule. But soon as we touch India everything gets changed and we take India for granted. We will run helter skelter in that immigration room, we will cut in line, we will litter litter everywhere. This is just tip of the iceberg. I wrote, but deleted all the atrocities because I only felt very bad by us. We dress like Westerners, we eat like Westerners but we won't behave like them. We have taken the thorns and left the beautiful roses behind. On the other hand, people here(USA) are after our Yoga and Ayurveda .

August 15th is just 4 months away. I wish to write/say, "Happy Independence Day or Mera Bharath Mahan or Indhiya Naadu en veedu". But really speaking, have I done anything to India other than lamenting here and filing charge sheet against my fellows?When I do little something (like picking a paper from the road and putting it in the dump, or questioning people spitting on the road or any other manner by which I can remove a blemish from Mother India) that day I will proudly write on my wall "VANDE MATARAM".

Back in school days, my tamil teacher used to tell us that Mahakavi Barathiyaar(great Tamil Poet) in his work Paanajli Sabatham(Draupathi's Vow), personified India as Draupathi and the Britisher's as Dushasana. I don't know whether it is true or not. But now I think about that it does make sense. Any individual that degrade India by any means/ in any form is Dushasana. Each and every individual that saves India from the clutches of Dushasana is "The Protector".